Introduction

As newlyweds, my husband and I lived in Manhattan, and
like all New Yorkers we walked everywhere. But I quickly
noticed something strange. Quite often we’d be strolling
hand in hand and Jeff would abruptly jerk his head up and
away. We’d be watching in-line skaters in Central Park or
waiting to cross the street in a crowd, and he would
suddenly stare at the sky. I started to wonder, Is something
going on at the tops of these buildings?

Turns out, something was going on, but it wasn’t up in the
buildings.

Have you ever been totally confused by something the
man in your life has said or done? Have you ever wondered,
looking at his rapidly departing back, Why did that make
him so angry? Have you ever been perplexed by your
husband’s defensiveness when you ask him to stop working
so much? Yeah? Me too.

But now, after conducting spoken and written interviews
with more than one thousand men, I can tell you that the
answers to those and dozens of other common perplexities
are all related to what is going on in your man’s inner life.
Most are things he wishes you knew but doesn’t know how
to tell you. In some cases, they’re things he has no idea you
don’t know. This book will share those interviews and those
answers. But be careful, ladies. You might be slapping your
forehead a lot!