Welcome

I wrote this book for you, though only you know why you’ve picked it up.  I became a Christian much to my own surprise. It was as if the sun of the gospel had evaporated my atheism in an instant.   But as time went on, one reality remained like a stubborn puddle: I was sexually attracted to women. I still am. 

So many questions pressed for attention. How could something that felt so right be condemned as wrong? Why would God prohibit acting on these desires for love? Would I ever have sex again? What words should I use to describe my experience—since neither gay nor straight seemed to fit? How should I navigate close female friendship in my new Christian community without everything getting… complicated?

My new Christian friends didn’t know where to point me. They had never had to consider these questions from my angle; they were all attracted to the opposite sex—a fact which presented enough challenges of its own in the fight for joyful obedience. And all the while, we were bombardedwith the loud, monotone declaration of our culture: “You must obey your sexual desires"